As fan-freaking-tastic as masturbation is

Meet the smart vibrator that wants to help you get better at getting off

(BTW, A Roll In The Hay and Oh Joy Sex Toy are two of my favorite reviewers). As fan-freaking-tastic as masturbation is, there’s often an annoying amount of work that goes into solo sex play. Yes, a dynamite vibrator will make the experience easier, but all that maneuvering?

The fixed tail keeps it in just the right place and at just the right angle for the kind of O’s you really deserve. “Solo play allows for leaning into pleasure without having to think about anything else. It’s a good opportunity to find out for yourself what your pleasure potential is and how you get there. This can be really empowering ,” explains Rachel Zar, LMFT, CST, a relationship and sex therapist at Spark Chicago Therapy and Northwestern Medicine Center for Sexual Medicine & Menopause. All the tone in the world doesn’t mean much if a guitar plays like a log.

« Find a setting you think is fun and use it on different parts of your body to see how it feels. Remember, there’s no ‘right’ way to pleasure yourself. » Solo sex not only helps you figure out what gives you pleasure but helps you feel more confident during partnered sex, which can lead to more fulfilling and healthy relationships. Dr. Lincoln adds that there’s no risk of sexually transmitted infections or pregnancy with masturbation. The Laya III’s C-shape allows it to cup your entire vulva hands-free (so you can focus on using those elsewhere). Pressure or friction in that area can be intensely satisfying,” says Shannon.

The Satisfyer Pro 2, however, is so well-loved that I couldn’t exclude it from this list because of my own biases. Its most unique attribute is that it uses oscillation technology instead of standard vibration to provide stimulation to a man’s frenulum (the seam on the underside of the penis that is extremely sensitive to touch). There are five oscillation patterns that can be adjusted for intensity. Getting more comfortable and in tune with your sexual health can be intimidating as is going through the process of buying a sex toy and putting it to good use. However, Viv Conway, co-founder of Girls Get Off, says it’s completely normal to feel nervous or embarrassed about using a vibrator. “The Lovehoney Magic Bullet 10 Function Bullet Vibrator is an excellent budget-friendly option for those looking for a versatile, beginner-friendly, and discreet toy.

You can use your fingers to figure out which, if any vibrator, orifices you’re comfortable having penetrated, or if you’d prefer the stimulation stay on the exterior parts of your genitals. You can also experiment to see if you enjoy simultaneous internal and external stimulation. Hands can also allow for more finesse and precision than a toy can, so if you’re someone who finds that you prefer a more targeted sensation, hands are definitely your friend. They can be a way for you to experiment with vibration and other sensations if you don’t have access to a sex toy store. D.I.Y is often cheaper than buying a toy made specifically for sexy purposes.

Thanks to its warming effect, this slick toy left our panel feeling hot and steamy, in the best way. Able to heat up and cool down, it’s perfect for those who enjoy temperature play. The navy and silver design was described as “elegant” by our panel, and the smooth material felt lovely to hold and use.

Time and time again, I will toss a breezy, adjustable C-ring like this into my bag or back pocket. It’s discreet, and works for pretty much all penis sizes (the max adjustment level is 8.5 inches), and when you’re done using it, the release toggle is just a push away. Listen, I want to do my part for the environment, but I also want to get off—and now I can do both. The Gaia Eco surprised me with its power and design—it’s not just a gimmick, it works. Plus, I feel slightly better about my life choices knowing my vibrator isn’t contributing to landfills. The PlusOne Dual Vibrating Massager delivers pleasure without the hefty price tag.

“It gave me the most intense orgasms I’ve ever experienced,” said one satisfied tester. Some brands may note that their toys are made from “body-safe” materials. All medical-grade silicone is also body-safe—but the reverse isn’t always true. To find the best wand vibrators, SELF contributors pulled on their combined nearly three decades of experience testing and reviewing sex toys. We also consulted 10 experts and asked them to share their tried-and-true recommendations. The final list includes high-quality, top-rated wand vibrators across different sizes, price points, and intensities.

There can be all sorts of loaded feelings about a toy that has been used before, especially with other partners. Hot Octopuss is known for making toys with mega-strong motors, and this bullet vibrator is no different. It’s also got a unique shape that allows you to focus its intensity into a small, pointed tip, or spread it out more along its broader side.